Handling Difficult Conversations

You will have noticed by now how hard it is for people to talk without it turning into an argument or even a fight. All our social media and social gatherings demonstrate this point. These issues are best seen when we engage in conversations. The words we use carry a lot of weight, more so now than ever before.
This is what is killing the spirit of great conversations. People are now actively avoiding talking to each other. But sooner or later, we will have to talk to each other. It is also important that we remember the power and beauty of conversation. This is what motivates the desire to learn more about the means of holding conversations that may turn bad.
You need first to shed the opposing side’s style of talking. Many topics quickly lead to there being opposing sides at the table. This can be stopped when no one takes a side. Alternatively, you can ask the other party to also refrain from making the situation worse. While this may be difficult, there are some techniques that can help you manage the task.
You need to learn to take a breath each time you need to speak. Do this every time you need to respond in a conversation that is escalating to a shouting match. You also need to give the other party time to finish stating their points. Confirm if they are done before speaking. Breathing is the best way to moderate your speech and to remove all traces of negative emotion in them.
It is best if you learn to ask a lot of questions. Questions help to bring about more meaningful ideas, and the other party feels great too. It will also give you time to regroup. The other person also gets to think beyond what they currently were. The conversation will benefit by there being more substantial issues on the table and will approach an agreeable ending. As you carry on, you shall have less and fewer emotions to worry about. You will field questions that get them to elaborate on their ideas, or to illustrate them further. These questions enable you to learn more, and keep away the emotions.
It is best it the conversation ends with both parties in agreement. No one gains anything when it ends at an argument. This should also make you see sense in turning a difficult conversation into an easier and friendlier one. The best way to do this is to list all the things you agree on, and focus on those.
To make the most of the tips shared here, you all need to be active listeners and present in the moment.